It’s not my business

I can’t count the number of times I have had to tell myself “Girl mind your business”this past couple of days.

You want to know why? I will tell you anyway 😉
I am currently reading a book titled Battle field of the mind by Joyce Meyer. I highly recommend it. It has been really helpful for me.

Back to my story, I read a part about judging others and I read it faithfully.
I also concluded that I am not a judgy person.

Haha, I lied to me. Since the past two days after I read this part, I believe I have been convicted severally.

I never had to say it out but I have noticed things, had conversations in my head and eventually reached a conclusion about a person’s action that is not my business.

I realise what I often judge is the difference in us. Sometimes it’s because I think the person could do it better or do it my way.

To judge is also to feel more righteous than the other. ” Like I would never do that” ” She is not good homemaker” ” He is a bad husband”

Yes they say the fact speaks for itself, but it is the fact we are privileged to see. Being in the legal profession made me appreciate this more. A Judge would reach a conclusion and make a judgement based on the assessment of all the facts and testimonies presented before him or her.

I think the human nature is even deeper. A person has a lifelong configuration within him/her that leads to their present state. You take into consideration their childhood upbringing, environment, personal experiences etc. Those are things that shape a person’s present state.

To judge a person is to take into account those factors that led to their present state which in fact I do not know.

Another question to ask is “if I walked in their shoes and ran their race,would I have been better ?”

I am learning that I would always see and notice things however, I can choose not to pass judgement.

Instead of judgment, I can learn compassion, I can offer help, and most of all, I can mind my business.

The exception to the above rule would be if I were to be put in a position where I would have to adjudicate a matter like an earthly Judge or maybe as an elder to settle an issue.

However we should put in mind that this kind of judgment is not condemnation. It’s it rather taking a stand and making effort to set things straight between two or more humans.

What I am learning right now is if I can’t help or if my help is not required, then it’s not my business.

I am learning not to judge/ condemn “different”. People can do things their own ways. I don’t necessarily have to agree with what you do or how you do it.

In so many words, I just told you about my recent business of minding my business.

P.S I wrote this post a while ago. Last year actually.

Thanks for reading

Bloom 🌹

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